WINsday Inspiration
- Jewel Diamond Taylor
- 2 days ago
- 3 min read
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Relationships show us to ourselves. Oh, how I have learned this; with my husband, as a parent, a grandmother, two siblings, my close personal friendships, being a Godmother, traveling with others, sharing my stories, sensitivities and secrets, being a public leader, and a private person. All of these relationships are mirrors that have taught me a lot of hard things,interesting things, and great things about myself.
Marriage, friendships, living with others, dating others, serving with others on a team, family members, co-workers, and even traveling with others act like mirrors. Intimacy creates
mirrors we don’t always like to see. It shows the bruised places, the unhealed stories, the habits we pretend aren’t there. But it also reveals the parts of us that are ready to grow if we stop running from our own reflection. When you become close to someone, relationships can be "emotional x-rays".
Relationship mirrors expose all the internal characters we swear we don’t have. The loving one. The mean one. The controlling one who thinks she’s everybody’s mama. The fearful one whispering worst case scenarios. The strong, creative, confident one who shows up. The jealous one pretending that things don't bother them. The devoted and loyal one. The reliable one. The unreliable one who has excuses. The ambitious one. The grateful one. The determined one. The unfocused one. The needy one. The suspicious one giving side-eye. The overgiver. The fixer. The critical and judgmental ones who stay busy. The kind one. The wounded one. The loner. The angry one with her arms crossed. The guarded one. The dishonest one. The procrastinator. The saboteur. And the courageous one trying to keep the whole crew in line. They all come out in relationships, like it or not, because intimacy has a way of calling everybody to the stage.
The closer you are to others, the more you will see... and others will see your strengths, contradictions, and flaws. This is why some marriages and friendships don't last. The intimacy exposes imperfections, inconsistencies, and shadows that someone cannot adapt to or accept.
And that is exactly why some people choose to isolate and avoid relationships. It feels safer to hide... than to heal. Who are you avoiding? Who is avoiding you or pointing fingers?
Some people take accountability even when it stings because they want to grow.
Others keep blaming everyone else for their personality, their choices, and their lifestyle because it’s easier than doing the inner work.
The mirror never lies. It’s up to us to decide whether we face it or run from it. Who could you become if you stopped protecting your old wounds and allowed healthy relationships to stretch you instead of scare you? What part of your life is asking you to show up, be honest, and take ownership instead of pulling back and blaming others?
Track proof of your efforts, not outcome. Outcomes are slow. Effort is daily. Your brain needs evidence that you’re moving.
Create a simple list...
What I did today?
What I learned today?
Who I helped today?
Who I reached out to today? This practice quiets your mind from the inner chatter... “I’m not doing enough” narrative.
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Jewel Diamond Taylor,
Pres/Founder of Women on the Grow, 501c3
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