Coping with Grief/Loss

Grief is full of emotional contradictions. Love does not disappear. It changes form. So our feelings collide. These are some of the honest feelings I hear from my grief counseling sessions. I felt some of these conflicting thoughts when my 38 yr old son passed from cancer.

I miss them deeply and I am relieved their suffering is over.

I feel grateful for the time we had and angry it was not longer.

I want to talk about them and I cannot find the words.

I feel strong for everyone else and fall apart when I am alone.

I am moving forward and I feel guilty for living.

I laugh at a memory and cry right after.

I feel close to them in my heart and painfully aware they are gone.

I want comfort and I want to be left alone.

I feel numb and overwhelmed at the same time.

I am thankful for support and exhausted by people.

I want life to feel normal and I do not want to forget.

I feel peace some days and deep ache on others.

I am healing and I still feel broken.

I want to be strong and I am so tired.

I feel their presence in memories and the emptiness in real time.

I am proud I made it through today and scared of tomorrow.

I feel connected to others who understand and lonely in my specific loss.

I want to hold on to everything and I am learning to let go.

I feel faith about eternity and heartbreak about today.

I am grateful they were in my life and devastated they are not here now.

I want the pain to ease and I do not want to lose the depth of love.

I feel moments of joy and then guilt for feeling okay.

I am learning to live again and I do not want a life without them.

I feel comfort in memories and pain in reminders.

I am surviving and I am forever changed.

Why do I feel numb after a death?

Why am I so tired while grieving?

I have trouble sleeping after my loss.

I sometimes feel guilty.

I feel anger during grief.

I feel loneliness after losing my loved one.

None of this means you are grieving wrong. Grief is love with nowhere to land physically. Of course, it comes in waves that do not match. Your heart is learning how to carry love and loss at the same time.

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