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WINsday Wisdom....

Because of my own grief journey and the grief counseling work that grew out of losing my mother and son, I began to understand the deep psychological impact of loss that many people rarely talk about openly. Sometimes the deepest grief is not about the past.

It’s about the future you thought you were going to have.

The marriage you believed would last. The healthy body you assumed would keep carrying you. The family unity, career, financial cushion, or business that did not happen. The peaceful chapter of life you kept working toward. When those things change or fall apart, it can feel disorienting. Not just emotionally, but mentally and spiritually too.

Grief is a painful experience that breaks the invisible belief/expectations that life is predictable, safe, fair, or eventually going to make sense. So sometimes people are not only grieving what happened. They are grieving the collapse of the life they imagined.

That’s why someone can look “fine” on the outside while internally feeling lost. They’re quietly wrestling with questions like:

Who am I now? What does my future look like now? How do I move forward when the life I pictured no longer exists?

Ancient wisdom teaches suffering grows when we fight reality instead of facing it. Pain increases when we cling tightly to things that were never guaranteed to stay the same.

We don’t cling because we’re weak. We cling because we loved, because we hoped, because we built our identity around certain dreams, people, and plans. We suffer not only from what happens, but from the judgment that our life should have gone differently. We can exhaust ourselves fighting reality, replaying what should have happened, could have happened, or used to be. And while we’re busy arguing with what cannot be changed, we slowly lose the energy needed to heal, adapt, and begin building a new life from where we are now.

Healing is not pretending it didn’t matter. It mattered deeply. But eventually life asks us to stop trying to return to the old map and begin asking a different question:

What can still be built from where I am now? Not fake positivity. Not denial. Just honesty.

What strength is still in me? What beauty still remains? What wisdom has this pain revealed?What part of my life is still asking me to show up, grow, love, create, serve, or heal?

Because even after deep disappointment, life does not end. Sometimes a different path appears. A deeper version of you emerges. A quieter kind of peace begins to grow slowly.

And while grief may change you... it does not have to erase you.

You can grieve the life that didn’t happen… and still discover meaning, connection, purpose, and moments of joy in the life that is still unfolding.